As an undergraduate in zoology, I worked in a research lab with a couple of other undergrads and two men who were completing their PhDs. Toward the end of my summer with them, one of the PhD candidates pulled me aside to let me know that, while he appreciated how direct I was in speaking to people, I should be careful because not everyone likes that in a woman.
I wasn’t sure whether to ask him if he thought being more oblique and deferential would help my job prospects, or if he really thought I hadn’t yet figured out for myself that some men are put off by my confidence.
Yeah, f-k that noise. Loud ladies for life.